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Bereavement Support
Wednesday 10th November 2021 @ 8:51 pm

Shame on me for staying away for so long … I promise to do better and bring things more frequently to this blog.

I will soon be connecting the dots for the bereavement support group we run here in Trinity 

It is by far the most interesting and meaningful group I have the honour of being a part of in the university. 

A dear bereaved friend posted this writing by Gary Sturgis on FB this morning – It sums up perfectly the approach we take in our group. I have never seen these truths expressed so beautifully and succinctly. Maybe they can help you as they touched me …



‘Living with a Broken Heart’ by Gary Sturgis – “Surviving Grief”


Remember what the Tin Man said in the “Wizard of Oz” after he finally got a heart ….“Now I know I’ve got a heart because it’s breaking.”

If someone you love died, your heart is probably broken. 

So how do you live with a broken heart? 

The answer isn’t how you fix it or move beyond it. The skill is learning to live with your grief as an ongoing way of being in the world. It’s the way you honor that which you love. 

What I’m proposing is that, with enough healing, living with heartbreak can become natural, and very normal. From my personal and professional experience, I can tell you that as you embark on your healing journey, you’ll start crying a whole lot more. Not just to clear pain, but for the simplest of everyday reasons, and out of nowhere. You’ll cry when you see a bird, a can of paint, an apple, or even the shape of a cloud. Random things will make you cry. The heart is designed to grieve, it wants to grieve… has to grieve! Especially when it’s broken. 

This is the price you pay for love. 

The loss of the life you thought you had, the life you once knew and held so dear. Loss of a dream you believed was true. 


But you can also find and feel grief in opening your heart. Opening it to love and to new possibilities. Opening it to what the future holds. 

Isn’t that what life is all about? Endings and beginnings, closings and openings? The heart was designed to navigate you through this forever winding adventure called life. 

But you have to be willing to feel…..and to live with a broken heart. 

Here’s the thing… can learn to live with your broken heart by befriending your grief.You can discover the love that still exists around you…..and share that love with others who are also living with a broken heart. 



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